For most men, the thought of an enthusiastic pair of lips wrapping around the penis triggers a response similar to that of an ice-pop being similarly sucked – they melt. Getting head is often one of his favourite things, but when you go down on a guy, he gets much more than your velvety mouth and luscious lips wrapped around him. Men love the physical sensations that go along with the fellatio, but some even get off on the peripherals – the visual and mental stimulation – more than the sensations.
When a lover is between a man’s legs, he has a clear view of all the action, from beginning to end. He sees and feels everything you do. And because most everyone likes some form of visual stimulation, head can be one of the ultimate sex shows, starring him and you.
Some men enjoy seeing it as a form of devotion in which they are being lovingly worshipped. Others might get off on the feeling of power, relishing the notion of being ’serviced’ or even ‘taking’ the pleasure you offer. Either way, going down on a man is one of life’s singular pleasures. Nothing compares to having the absolute focus of your lover’s heat, intensity, lust and desire right in front of you and in your mouth.
Of course, if you put a man’s penis in your mouth, then the chances are that he’s going to have an orgasm – in or near your mouth, and whether to spit or swallow is an issue that goes through the mind of everyone who goes down on a man.
Many fellatio fans enjoy the taste of come and like its distinctive texture. After all, it is the tangible reward for earnest efforts, and many who like it view it in an almost romantic, sometimes fetishistic light. It can be a powerful aphrodisiac too – the substance itself or simply the concept of a man coming in your mouth can be a powerful turn-on.
However, taste can vary, and besides any dietary influences, each man is different; you may find you enjoy the flavour of one lover’s come and not another’s.
There are a few things a man can do to make sure his come tastes and smells neutral. Things that can make the flavour of semen strong or pungent are vitamins, asparagus, beets, coffee, cigarettes, and garlic.
Strong substances such as these can influence a man’s ejaculate in much the same way they do urine. So, guys, to keep it smelling and tasting neutral, avoid these substances at least twenty-four hours before oral sex, and drink plenty of water.
Going down on your lover involves more than just putting a penis in your mouth. Giving a memorable blow job includes kissing, nibbling, licking, sucking and caressing his entire genital area throughout the whole encounter, especially at the beginning.
Fellatio is a composition performed in three easy pieces. You conjure and build arousal with playful and purposeful oral foreplay, then you increase pleasure and establish a rhythm with specific techniques, and in the final crescendo, your rhythm combines with your mouth and hands to bring him to an orgasmic peak.
Taking the time to savour his smell and taste and feel everything to the fullest in the initial stages of fellatio is similar to enjoying an appetiser before the main course. Rushing to paradise can be fun sometimes, but going slowly prolongs his pleasure and makes for a much more memorable experience.
Start out with light kisses that are all soft lips and no tongue. Combine your kisses with other types of touch elsewhere, such as caresses and light squeezes with your hands; you can also press your face against his genitals to fully incorporate the action.
Some men will be delighted if you run their penis over your face and neck, especially if it’s done with a sweetly salacious smile. This extra contact when you’re going down on him makes a big difference between ‘any old blow job’ and getting head from someone who really wants him to feel good.
Touching his testicles enhances what you’re doing to his penis, and to the rest of him. The balls are often neglected in oral sex, even though they’re a major pleasure zone.
While giving his crotch every other type of attention, you can gradually incorporate little licks or tongue-flickers to his penis head, shaft and base and where his scrotum meets his body, and you can lift his balls and lick his perineum.
Use your hand to guide his penis into positions that make it easy for you to reach every spot. He might really like being licked along the underside of the shaft, though he may prefer a spot at the base, up the centre or on the underside of the head.
He may also like it all around the lower ridge of the head, where it mushrooms off the shaft, or at a particular point along that ridge. Some men really enjoy having their urethral opening (piss slit) tongued and licked, though not all guys like this.
This is a terrific time to experiment and play with different tongue techniques and again, it is highly recommended that you use your hands to guide his penis, adding the extra pleasure of fondling or lightly squeezing his balls.
When you begin to put his penis in your mouth, take it slowly. Put him in, then back out, and repeat the process as an intermediate stage of oral foreplay. Using your hands along with your mouth is an important technique, and it has several beneficial side effects.
Besides making your mouth into a pleasurable space that he can slide entirely into, your hands can also enhance his pleasure by moving in different ways or adjusting constriction at any point in your up-and-down motions.
And it can provide a way for you to minimise or maximise how deep he goes into your mouth. As such, your hand-and-mouth motion comes into play particularly when you ‘deep throat’ him.